She does the Laundry, the groceries, and cooks, cleans and balances checkbooks while holding a baby on her hip. She is involved in multiple projects at once, sometimes works outside of the home, carpools, after waking the children up and helping them get ready for school, she is an activist for human rights, a voice in our communities and at the checkout when she has been charged too much for something, she fights for justice and fairness and yet she loves deeply and is not afraid to show it. She is as beautiful and fragile as the petals of a rose yet as strong as a Palm tree bending in the winds of a storm; she does not break easily. A mother can move mountains when she prays and children fear the Lord because of her. If she were to go on strike, it would be the end of the world. Within her there are life-giving properties. Without a mother there are no children, without children there are no families and without families there is no humanity.
On Mother’s Day we celebrate the gift of God to all humanity, Mothers. For some it is a joyous day, a day of exchanges of gifts, love, hugs and kisses. For others it is a day of sadness remembering their mother who now is not with them. And for some it is a wretched day, a day when they remember that they never knew this person called a mother, a day when they remember their abandonment and or abuse.
While there are more good mothers in the world, we must also acknowledge the fact that there are mothers who left, mothers who weren’t kind, mothers who abused, and mothers who just didn’t care.
Psychologist, counselors and Pastors have agreed that the most influential relationship a person will ever have is the relationship between themselves and their mother; whether the mother was present or not, her actions or absence shapes or marks a child’s life forever. It is no doubt that a mother is essential and important in life.
If a person feels loved and accepted, it can be traced back to a healthy childhood where mom and dad influenced acceptance. Sometimes this comes from grandmothers or aunts and uncles who helped to raise the child, but over all the love of a parent shapes a child’s self-esteem and attitude toward themselves.
But sadly it is also true that if a person feels unloved and unaccepted, there is usually a trace of abandonment in that child’s life and can usually be traced back to the parents.
The relationship between a child and his parents prepares that child to face the world and the relationships that await him.
To the mother’s who have embraced this mission of parenting with love and total commitment, we applauded you today. Today we say thank you. We acknowledge your efforts and hard work. Life isn’t perfect and we aren’t perfect, but our children love us and need us in a way that is like no other.
It is not a secret that some of us moms have wanted to quit at some time. Motherhood is hard. Questions, comparisons, financial hardships, sickness, weariness, and some times just plain boredom can cause a woman to want to give up and run far away where she can regroup and refresh.
But to those of us who haven’t quit, today we say to you, Thank you. We see you and hear you today. We acknowledge and admire your tenacity, a woman who laughs at the days to come because she is clothed with strength and dignity. –Proverbs 31:25 you are fearless and relentless, we see that and are grateful. We thank God for a mother’s prayers. A woman who fears the Lord she shall be praised. –Proverbs 31:30
To the children and husbands and or families that surround our moms today, keep your eyes and your ears open for ways to help mom around the house, encourage her; love her. Watch your words; don’t take her on guilt trips instead take her to the spa or her favorite places. Her heart is sensitive but beats for you.
With much love, Happy Mother’s Day,